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3 MindShifts to attract the love you truly want

Relationship is a spiritual process

At first, relationships might seem purely emotional or practical like it’s all about compatibility, timing, and shared goals. And on one level, they are. But underneath those daily realities, something deeper unfolds. Every relationship becomes a process that shapes how we see ourselves and the world.

Honesty is prerequisite to love

We often think honesty is about telling the truth to others. But it starts with being real with yourself. What do you want? What are you pretending not to feel? Where are you saying “it’s fine” when it’s not? The love you experience will only ever match the honesty you practice.

Dating is a social activity

There’s something freeing about changing the way we see dating. Not as something to win or get right like a game, but as an opportunity to connect. What if dating was simply another way to meet people, to share stories, to learn how others see the world?

Define the love life you truly want. I’ll help you make it happen.

It’s not just about finding a partner. Dating can be a path to healing old wounds, understanding your true needs, and building the emotional foundation for the life you want. Together, we can prevent family breakdowns, marital disconnection, and parenting frustrations—even if it means deciding to be single for a while.

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join honest conversations

about love.

What if there were a space where we can gather and just talk about the humanity of being in love and loved?

Just connecting as humans to listen and reflect together in our attempt to make sense of love and relationships.

This is Love Conversations Night.

At the start of -Ber month, we’re opening the circle 🫶

Our first question: WHEN DOES LOVE BECOME AN OBSESSION?

Come with your perspective. We are here for an intellectual discussion that can tug our heartstrings. No sharing of personal story required.

📅 September 4, 2026
⏰ 6:30-8:30pm
📍 Flora and Faun Bookshop, Patria de Cebu

FREE ENTRY
And let’s support our local venue-partner by ordering a drink or bite.

Bring a friend, or come meet someone new.

Reserve your seat through the QR code or link in bio 💜

𝐇𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲.

When you express your needs and wants, it is an invitation to the other for deeper understanding of who you are at the core.

However, specially in the early stages of dating, as Filipinos, directness can be a challenge. We have the tendency to avoid confrontation. Sometimes leaning into “slow fading” or “ghosting” when we are no longer interested in pursuing the connection.

𝙋𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙠𝙞𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙙𝙖𝙢 (shared inner perception) is a Filipino personality that explains the tendency to be indirect. I understand this as wanting to cause no harm thus there is “hesitation to react, attention to subtle cues, and non-verbal behavior in mental role-playing (if I were in the other’s situation, how would I feel)” (Mataragnon, 1987 as cited in Pe-Pua and Protacio-Marcelino, 2000).

This encourages us to be sensitive to the other’s feelings and discerning of our actions. Nuances exist thus 𝘱𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘬𝘪𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘥𝘢𝘮 offers a layer of love and intimacy.

But there are times we are called to express directness specially about our intentions in the early stages of dating. Some things need to be said in words to avoid harm and misinterpretations.

Being too direct all the time may not allow time for discernment or feeling others.

Being too indirect all the time may make you lose track to your dream relationship.

The key is balance.

Reference:
Pe-Pua, R., & Protacio-Marcelino, E. (2000). Sikolohiyang Pilipino (Filipino psychology): A legacy of Virgilio G. Enriquez. Asian Journal of Social Psychology, 3(1), 49–71. https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-839X.00054

We can love someone, but still don’t feel close to them.

Love fuels relationships because you care.

But for intimacy to thrive, honesty is a prerequisite.

Biddle (1976) says that “depth” is the dimension of intimacy wherein it is more than just being together or sharing life stages. It’s about the presence of safety to be vulnerable and accepted no matter what.

In Sikolihiyang Pilipino, “pakikiisa” (oneness) is the last stage of “hindi ibang tao” (one of us). This is just my interpretation but it could be the “depth” that Biddle was also talking about. When you become one with the other.

This is why I believe relationships are spiritual experience as well.

Compatibility and chemistry are important. In fact, they can be the foundation.

But for a relationship to thrive and sustain, it must go beyond logic.

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Finally—dating that feels like you

Got a Love Problem? Let's Talk About It.

Relationship is a spiritual process

Honesty is prerequisite to love

Dating is a social activity

Define the love life you truly want. I’ll help you make it happen.

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